[Dec16th] Not-so-festive festive blog
December 16th. 9 days till Christmas, I’m hoping some people are ‘balls deep’ in the Christmas spirit right now. I’d like to be able to say the same but I’ve only done 1 christmassy thing so far and that was watching “Elf” on Monday night (to lift spirits after watching a not so festive/ happy documentary on the whole Jamie Bulger thing). It’s not that I’m scroogey, I love christmas, I love that it brings people together, and sometimes those with bad personality traits will add a silencer to there douche-ness and be less selfish and more positive.
Christmas is great. Now…my reasons for not being as into Christmas as I’d like to be is simply because a) I’m super DOOPER broke, I STILL haven’t had my Student Loans, and I’ve been scraping by in terms of living and missing out on social outings for pretty much the past 3/4 months, it’s beyond a joke. So as with the lack of monies, I’ve not been able to so far by a single christmas present. The priority people I have to buy for is my sis and my 2 lil bro’s, as they deserve presents from me, my parents would normally be higher up on my priority list but this year I’ve just pretty much lost all care for them to be honest. The only thing I have them to be thankful for really is the fact they haven’t kicked me out of the small little room I inhabit in there house. That isn’t too say they don’t make things painfully unbearable though, my dads the main offender, I generally stay in my room 99% of the time I’m at home, and if I need something from the kitchen and see him in there, I’ll just go back to my room and wait it out…why?…because it seems like pretty much every time I get near him, he’ll have something negative to say to me, and I’m pretty sure he gets off on being a dick to me, and my evidence for that is the fact of how petty he can be in terms of what he’ll find to have a go at me for…for example, the other day he got all mouthy about me washing my hands in the sink that had some cup in it that was my lil bro’s, had a big go at me for washing my hands there (which weren’t dirty…i simply washed them because I was prepping some food and it was hygenic too), first off the water off my hands was going down the side of the bowl…so even if my hands ‘were’ dirty, the water wasn’t going to go into this bowl of ‘fairy liquid’-ified water that this lil cup was in, and 2ndly had I gone through the trouble of moving the bowl out of the sink, he would’ve definitely had a go at me for doing that cause of the mess that would’ve made around the kitchen side. He’s just a complete dick. Now…next up is my mum, I don’t have as much of a problem with her as I do for my dad, but since I moved back in with my parents (in Jan 09), things have gone mucho’s down hill between me and my mum, and I’m not quite sure where it stems from. Now…me and my mum have never really been close, my mum just has never been that talkative with me, however she used to at least from time to time check up on how I was doing and do the occasional petty motherly love thing of like offer me a cup of tea, or something small like that, but this year all that kind of thing has stopped, I don’t mind that soo much, but it kind of sucks of how she has just stopped asking how I’m doing every once in a while…I don’t think she’s asked me anything of that nature since about March/ April this year, I started university in September (which is pretty much a big deal to me), and I’ve been busy with that for 3/4 months and now I’m on my christmas break. Yet with the build up to university, and all the time I’ve been at university, she hasn’t asked me once how I’m doing, which kind of sucks… Don’t get me started on my dad though, he stopped giving a shit about what was going on along long time ago, I don’t think hes ever been interested in how I did at school, and all he cares about is that I’m not just at home on benefits. My Nan and Grandad whom I’ve seen every so often (maybe once a month) always ask how I’m doing and how uni is going, and although it’s only usually a 1 minute conversation, it’s just nice to know someone gives a damn, ya know? I’m quite an independent person though, so I don’t need that kind of fussing over, but still your parents are pretty much supposed to do the occasional parenty things, were as all I get is criticism and an awkward feeling of resentment from them, and it’s those sort of awkward silences and that sense of “I can tell you don’t want me here” that come from something mundane as me being in the kitchen making a cup of tea and then one of my parents coming in to get something etc that really do put a grey cloud over me the whole time that I’m at home.
Thus the reason I spend 99% of my time in my room, and thus the reason why I have surrounded myself with dvd’s, tv shows, video games, and alsorts of distractions to keep me occupied and entertained in a place that I don’t want to be in
….I just want my loans to come through then hopefully I will have enough (if I’m given enough) to move into some Student accommodation and just get the fuck away from these 2 people that have stopped caring where my life goes and just want to hate on me all the time. Last year I hadn’t really seen my parents much for the year cause I moved out, so last christmas wasn’t as bad in terms of family meetings because I hadn’t been around in a while, so they didn’t really have anything to criticise me over, plus the fact that I only came to see them on christmas day and that was just to go eat at my Nan and Grandads…so there was enough christmas day distraction to keep either of them from being an ass to me. This year though, like I said…it’s been a year of downhill-ness, I never have any conversation with my parents, and it’s just awkward to be around them because of the time that keeps passing etc. The last time I spoke to my dad was the time he was a prick to me the other week regarding the sink thing, and the last time I spoke to my mum was on Monday when she told me she needed to go in my room to use the boiler, but before that the last time she spoke to me wasn’t for like 2 weeks, and that was to have a go at me for my other lil debt problems (which I’d love to be able to fix…yet obviously she thinks that her giving me a hard time for it will magically make some money appear for me to pay off said debts).
It’s just so fucked up and shitty living at home with my parents, and I really would rather just get out as soon as possible, and hopefully never ever have to move back home again, and to more of an extreme…even see them again, as they’ve done enough damage to whatever relationship we could claim to have this year and when I think of them I can only think of 2 people that just make me feel bad, that’s it.
Anywho…back to the lack of monies due to no student loans…I haven’t been able to buy a present, or go for catch up festive drinks with a load of my friends whom I havent seen for a while, or stroll around shops and be ambushed with the sight of christmassy decorations and music etc. I’ve just pretty much been at home most of the time with no money to do anything…and as my room has no decorations in my room (unless the fact theres a picture from a christmas episode of South Park on my South Park calendar this month counts), and I haven’t been to anywhere were there is festivities going on. Christmas has pretty much just been a myth to me :\ …which is kind of how it was last year due to the fact last December I came out of a 16 month relationship, and the break up interferred with getting any sort of christmas decorations for our old place etc. Still, I can take positive from the fact that I can do a nice 5 second sigh and ponder about how christmas can only get better next year…
and on that note…I end this blog…
I’ve kind of fell out of my blogging loop for the past month (although I’ve done a couple of lil bits for youtube), but I definitely expect to pick up the pace now…what with 4 weeks off uni to play with
…so expect some “Top 2009 lists” coming soon, as well as some blogs on stuff more positive than this one. I’ll also be updating a few bugs and possibly adding a few new features to the blog soon too.
Adios Amigo’s
Kermit x
Peace






